Anxious Attachment Coaching.
Feel the difference With Elisa Monti’s Anxious Attachment Coaching
If you feel anxious, unsettled, or on edge in relationships — constantly wondering where you stand, overthinking every text, or fearing disconnection — you’re not alone. Many people move through the world with patterns of protest, worry, or emotional intensity that make closeness feel both deeply desired and deeply overwhelming.
Through anxious attachment coaching, I support you in understanding these patterns with compassion, strengthening your inner sense of steadiness, and building relationships where you feel seen, valued, and emotionally safe.
How My Coaching Supports Anxious Attachment
My work blends trauma-informed coaching, somatic awareness, nervous-system support, and parts work to help you feel more grounded, steady, and emotionally safe in your relationships.
Nervous System Regulation
We explore how activation shows up in your body — the urgency, spiraling thoughts, or sensitivity — and practice tools that help you anchor yourself before overwhelm takes over. This creates a steadier internal foundation for connection.
Somatic & Emotional Awareness
Gentle somatic practices help you notice where tension or fear lives in your system, so you can shift from reactive patterns into grounded presence.
Parts Work for Inner Safety
We meet the parts of you that fear abandonment, long for closeness, or worry about being “too much.” By understanding these parts with compassion, your internal world becomes more spacious, secure, and supported.
Shifting Relational Patterns
Together, we build self-trust, clearer boundaries, and emotional steadiness — not to detach, but to connect from a place that feels true, empowered, and safe.
Voice & Expression Work
Somatic voicework helps you communicate needs with clarity instead of urgency and release the shame that often surrounds sensitivity or emotional expression..
What Is Anxious Attachment Coaching?
Anxious attachment coaching is a supportive, non-clinical process that helps you explore relational patterns through the body, the nervous system, and your emotional history — without judgment, labels, or pressure. Rather than “fixing” or pathologizing anything, we work together to understand the deeper wisdom behind your reactions.
You might recognize anxious attachment in patterns like:
Worrying someone is losing interest
Feeling easily activated by silence or distance
Overthinking conversations
Struggling to trust your worth or place in a relationship
Needing reassurance but feeling ashamed of it
Losing yourself in the relationship dynamic
In coaching, these responses aren’t treated as flaws — they’re seen as protective strategies you developed when you needed them. Together, we learn how to meet these patterns with care and create more grounded emotional safety from within.
Who This Coaching Is For
This offering is for you if you:
Often feel insecure in relationships
Overthink, analyze, or “brace for impact”
Fear being “too much” or “not enough”
Struggle with self-trust or self-worth
Want closeness but get overwhelmed by sensitivity
Feel emotionally activated in dating or long-term relationships
Want to understand your patterns without being pathologized
You don’t need to already know your attachment style. You don’t need to label yourself. You simply need a willingness to explore how your relationships impact your body, emotions, and sense of self.
What a Session Looks Like
Each session is personalized to meet you where you are, but often includes:
Nervous System Grounding
Gentle practices to notice activation and bring your body into calm presence.
Somatic Exploration
Tuning into where fear, tension, or overwhelm lives in your body and learning to shift out of reactive patterns.
Guided Parts Work
Meeting the parts of you that feel anxious, clingy, or “too much” with curiosity and compassion.
Support Around Communication
Tools and strategies to navigate relational dynamics with clarity and steadiness.
Emotional Processing
A safe space to unpack patterns, reflect, and build understanding of your inner landscape.
Practical Tools & Home Practices
Simple exercises to regulate your nervous system between sessions and reinforce inner safety and relational trust.
The Goal of Anxious Attachment Coaching
Rather than striving for perfection or “secure attachment overnight,” our work focuses on:
Inner steadiness — even when relationships feel uncertain
Self-trust — so you don’t abandon yourself in pursuit of closeness
Compassion — for the parts of you that learned to survive through activation
Embodied confidence — so your voice feels grounded, expressive, and authentic
This is a space where sensitivity is respected, emotional depth is welcomed, and nothing about you is “too much.”
What Clients Often Notice
As you build inner regulation and awareness, many clients experience:
Less spiraling or panic when uncertainty arises
More clarity around needs and boundaries
Deeper emotional grounding
Increased capacity to hold space for themselves
Healthier and more aligned relationships
A greater sense of self-worth and emotional safety
You begin relating to others without abandoning yourself — and that changes everything.
Work With Me
You don’t have to quiet your fears alone.
You don’t have to force yourself into “secure attachment.”
You don’t have to feel ashamed of wanting closeness.
Your patterns make sense.
Your sensitivity is not a flaw.
And your nervous system can learn a new way of relating.
If you’re ready to explore anxious attachment through a grounded, trauma-informed, non-pathologizing coaching process, I’d love to support you.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this therapy or counseling?
No — this is coaching. I use trauma-informed, somatic practices to help you build skills, regulation, and self-awareness. Coaching focuses on growth, not clinical diagnosis or treatment.
How long does it take to feel a difference?
Many clients notice subtle shifts within a few sessions. More lasting change happens with consistent practice and integration between sessions.
Can coaching help me become more secure in relationships?
Yes. While patterns don’t shift overnight, coaching helps you regulate your nervous system, communicate clearly, and respond to triggers with more steadiness, moving toward secure connection.
Are sessions online?
Absolutely. I offer one-on-one sessions online, making coaching accessible globally.
Who is this not for?
Coaching is not a substitute for clinical treatment. If you need crisis support or a mental health diagnosis, I’ll guide you to appropriate clinical services.
What tools or practices will I learn?
You’ll gain practical grounding techniques, somatic awareness practices, self-inquiry tools, and communication strategies to navigate anxious attachment patterns with confidence.