Breakup Recovery Coaching
Build Your Relation After Breakup
A breakup can feel like the ground has disappeared beneath you. One moment you’re functioning, and the next you’re caught in waves of longing, confusion, anger, or numbness you didn’t expect to be so intense. Your mind replays conversations. Your body feels on edge. Even simple decisions can feel overwhelming.
Breakup recovery coaching offers a grounded, supportive space to help you move through this experience with care, clarity, and self-trust—without rushing your healing or pathologizing what you’re feeling.
I offer trauma-informed breakup recovery coaching for people navigating the emotional aftermath of relationship endings and seeking a steadier way forward.
When a breakup affects more than just your heart
Many people assume heartbreak is “just emotional,” but breakups often impact the entire nervous system. You may notice:
Persistent rumination or looping thoughts about your ex
Anxiety, tightness, or a constant sense of urgency
Difficulty sleeping, eating, or concentrating
Strong urges to reach out, check social media, or seek closure
A loss of confidence or sense of identity
These responses don’t mean something is wrong with you. They are common survival responses that arise when attachment, safety, and connection are disrupted. Breakup recovery coaching helps you understand and work with these responses rather than fighting or suppressing them.
What breakup recovery coaching is (and what it isn’t)
Breakup recovery coaching is not therapy or counseling, and it does not involve diagnosis or clinical treatment. I am not a licensed clinician.
What I offer is therapeutic coaching—a trauma-informed, ethically grounded approach that draws from nervous system awareness, somatic support, voice-based healing practices, and intuitive work. Coaching focuses on helping you build awareness, regulation, and forward movement while honoring your emotional experience.
This work supports you in:
Understanding what your system is responding to
Creating emotional steadiness during a destabilizing time
Reconnecting with your inner voice and self-trust
Moving forward without bypassing your grief
Who this breakup recovery coaching is for
This coaching may be a good fit if you find yourself saying things like:
You know the relationship ended for a reason, but you can’t stop thinking about them.
You’re trying “no contact,” but the urge to reach out keeps pulling you back in.
You feel unmoored without the relationship and aren’t sure who you are right now.
You want to heal without being told to “just move on” or “stay positive.”
You keep repeating relationship patterns and want to understand why—without blame.
Whether the breakup was recent or happened months (or even years) ago, coaching can meet you where you are.
What we work on together
Breakup recovery coaching is not about fixing you or forcing closure. It’s about creating conditions where healing can unfold naturally.
Our work may include:
Stabilizing your nervous system
We begin by helping your system feel safer and more regulated. This often reduces anxiety, emotional flooding, and the sense of being hijacked by thoughts or urges.
Interrupting obsessive loops
Rather than fighting rumination or attachment pulls, we gently work with them—so they lose intensity over time and no longer run the show.
Rebuilding self-trust and self-worth
Breakups often erode confidence. Coaching helps you reconnect with your inherent worth and reestablish internal stability that isn’t dependent on another person.
Voice-based healing practices
Your voice is deeply connected to truth, expression, and agency. Through gentle voice-based work (not voice training), we explore safe ways to reconnect with your authentic expression—especially if you’ve felt silenced or diminished in relationships.
Clarifying patterns and boundaries
Without pathologizing or diagnosing, we explore relational patterns with curiosity and compassion, helping you move forward with clearer boundaries and discernment.
My approach to breakup recovery coaching
My work is rooted in trauma-informed principles and respects the intelligence of your nervous system. I don’t believe in rushing grief, bypassing pain, or applying one-size-fits-all advice.
Instead, coaching unfolds at a pace that allows:
Emotional processing without overwhelm
Somatic awareness without forcing release
Insight without self-blame
I integrate intuitive coaching, body-based awareness, and voice-related practices to support healing that feels embodied—not just understood intellectually.
A gentle pathway through breakup recovery
While each coaching relationship is unique, many clients move through a general arc:
Stabilizing – creating safety and emotional steadiness
Creating space – loosening attachment loops and reactive urges
Processing – allowing grief, anger, and sadness to move through
Reclaiming your voice – reconnecting with truth, agency, and self-expression
Moving forward – rebuilding identity and relationship to self
This isn’t a rigid system. It’s a flexible, responsive process that honors where you actually are.
How breakup recovery coaching works
Sessions are held online, making this work accessible regardless of your location. While I may reference the East Coast or New York for context, my coaching is not location-limited and is available to clients wherever they are.
In sessions, you can expect a supportive, attuned space where we slow things down, listen deeply, and work practically with what’s coming up for you. Coaching may be weekly or biweekly, depending on your needs and capacity.
What healing can look like over time
While everyone’s process is different, many people notice:
Fewer emotional spirals
Less urgency to reach out or seek validation
Greater emotional steadiness
Increased self-trust and clarity
A renewed sense of self that feels grounded and whole
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting or erasing the relationship. It means being able to hold it without it holding you.
Begin breakup recovery coaching
If you’re navigating heartbreak and want support that is compassionate, trauma-informed, and ethically grounded, breakup recovery coaching may be the next right step.
You don’t have to do this alone—and you don’t have to rush yourself to be “over it.”
When you’re ready, I invite you to reach out and begin this work together.
Frequently Asked Question
How is breakup recovery coaching different from therapy?
Breakup recovery coaching focuses on present-moment support, self-awareness, and forward movement. It is not therapy or clinical treatment, and I do not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. Coaching offers a trauma-informed, ethically grounded space to work with emotional responses, nervous system regulation, and self-trust as you move through a breakup.
How long does it take to recover from a breakup?
There is no fixed timeline for healing. Breakup recovery isn’t linear, and everyone’s nervous system responds differently to loss and change. Coaching supports you in stabilizing, processing, and moving forward at a pace that feels respectful of your experience rather than forcing a deadline on your healing.
Can breakup recovery coaching help with obsessive thoughts about my ex?
Yes. Many people experience looping thoughts or constant mental replay after a breakup. Coaching helps you understand why these patterns arise and offers gentle, practical ways to reduce their intensity by working with the nervous system rather than trying to “think your way out” of them.
Do you help with no-contact struggles?
Breakup recovery coaching can support you if you’re struggling with urges to reach out, check social media, or break no-contact boundaries. Instead of using rigid rules, we explore what those urges are communicating and how to create enough internal steadiness to make choices that feel aligned and supportive.
Is this coaching only for recent breakups?
Not at all. Some people seek breakup recovery coaching weeks after a relationship ends, while others come months or years later when they realize something still feels unresolved. Coaching meets you where you are, regardless of how much time has passed.
Is breakup recovery coaching available outside New York?
Yes. All sessions are offered online, and I work with clients regardless of location. While I may reference the East Coast or New York for context, this coaching is not limited by geography or licensure.
What if my breakup brought up deeper emotional wounds?
Breakups often activate older emotional patterns and survival responses. Coaching provides trauma-informed support to work with these experiences safely and respectfully, without diagnosis or clinical framing, and without rushing your process.
How do I know if breakup recovery coaching is right for me?
If you’re looking for supportive, non-clinical guidance to help you regulate emotionally, reconnect with yourself, and move forward after a breakup, coaching may be a good fit. If you’re unsure, an initial conversation can help clarify whether this approach aligns with your needs.